What? A ball over a doll??
This was my first reaction when my daughter chose ball over a doll at the age of 3.
When she went to see big boys playing soccer at the park leaving her swing, I wondered.
When she told me she wants to learn football I enrolled her thinking she will give up soon.
When she woke up early every weekend for her class without a fuss for more than a year; I felt that her love for football is real and not how I have been perceiving it.
Finally when I saw her play last week in Japan in an Asia Pac 2023 tournament I was overwhelmed.
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Here’s what she believes in and how so many of my preconceived notions and biases changed during that match.
I feel these may benefit many of us in overcoming limiting beliefs and building resilient mindset.
- Alone but not lonely : She was the only girl traveling in the team of boys from all over India. Initially the boys hesitated to include her and some made faces & remarks.
Her response – “It’s ok! I am happy with myself they will come to me when they know more about me.”
Don’t give in to judgements and opinions. Stand up in your uniqueness.
- Support others: While everyone cheered when someone blocked or scored the goal. She clapped and tapped their shoulders when they couldn’t. She exclaimed “well tried”!!
Everyone is doing their best, acknowledge and appreciate.
- Smash the glass ceiling: When the team was referred again and again as boys, she would gently remind the coach, “I am here.” He changed it to ‘my super champs’ after 3 days.
Voice your opinion and ideas, to bring a positive change. It may be ignored at first but continuous reminders help.
- Never give up: She injured her arm during the match, but insisted on playing so that she can train her body and mind for overcoming challenges. Not only she did that, she inspired others. Coaches from other countries came and congratulated her.
Her Grandfather teaches her that challenging your body will expand your mind.
- Be kind: The kid who inadvertently caused the injury was about to be scolded by the folks present but she intervened and said no one should say anything, it was unintentional. He and all his troupe became her best friends, holding her bag and sharing jokes with the team while she returned back to India.
She proved, she is more than a gender label and self confidence is the prerequisite for great undertakings.
Her motto is “Princesses wear cleats.”
So it is! We are privileged to be living in world of opportunities and abundance. Let’s stand up for our rights, be kind, embrace our individuality and be a winner wherever we are!!
Are you willing to claim your own worth as yourself?
Are you surrounded by people who don’t see your value yet?
Over the years I have done a lot of work on overcoming limiting beliefs and building resilient mindset, but the feeling of seeing your lil one teaching you this life lessons is priceless.
“Let’s grow a little everyday even when it’s hard.”